Focus on helping @5 see how the target          '
behavior is helping @1 .                        '
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Children like things that work or do something. '
But, they often forget something that works in  '
the background and they become complacent.  You '
can help @1 recall and reaffirm how a behavior  '
works by bringing it from the background to the '
foreground.  Do this by noticing the behavior   '
and its impact.                                 '
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         MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR         '
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Children like the feeling of competence, of do- '
ing something well that is useful.  If a child  '
forgets the purpose that a particular behavior  '
serves, the adults can reaffirm its purpose.    '
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Ask yourself:                                   '
  *  Can I think of ways in which the target    '
     behavior is serving a useful purpose for   '
     @5?                                        '
  *  Can I think of ways to highlight the       '
     usefulness of the behavior?                '
  *  Can I find ways to make the behavior even  '
     more important than it was?                '
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Very young children are just beginning to get a '
sense of what works for them and what does not. '
A caretaker who says no verbally and SHOWS mild '
displeasure when something undesirable happens  '
and says yes verbally and SHOWS major pleasure  '
when the desirable happens will help @5         '
to acquire that sense.                          '
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Try:                                            '
  *  Saying no or showing MILD displeasure,     '
     then showing @1 the right way.             '
  *  Saying yes and then showing MAJOR pleasure '
     when the behavior happens.                 '
         MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR         '
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Children of this age love the notion of control.'
Use your superior intellect and control to fool '
@1 into thinking that they have it.  Put what   '
@3 wants in terms of what you want.             '
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Try:                                            '
  *  Taking @2 desires and saying, " When you   '
     do it, then you can..." or "I will..."     '
  *  Making what you want consistent with @2    '
     choice when @3 challenges you.  For ex-    '
     ample, say "You can go to bed now or ten   '
     minutes from now."  Then point out what    '
     @3 chose and hold @1 to it.                '
         MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR         '
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Children like the feeling of having what they do'
have an impact on you.  When they do something  '
right, you should respond positively.  When the '
behavior is not there, then you do not respond. '
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Try:                                            '
  *  Coming up with something to do when        '
     @5 shows the target behavior.              '
  *  Making what you do directly contingent     '
     on what @3 does.                           '
  *  Being consistent with your response. If    '
     @5 does it, then you do what you have      '
     said.  If @3 doesn't, then you don't.      '
         MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR         '
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Children of this age like to make a difference  '
and to feel powerful.  Having you respond pre-  '
dictably when they do something gives them a    '
sense of making this type of difference.        '
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Try:                                            '
  *  Thinking of something that you can do for  '
     @5 when @3 shows the desired               '
     behavior.                                  '
  *  Letting @5 know what you have              '
     decided to do for @1 when @3 does it.      '
  *  Letting @1 know that behaving in that      '
     way will get @1 what you decided on.       '
         MAINTAINING DESIRABLE BEHAVIOR         '
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Adolescents like the idea of being treated as an'
adult.  They like the notion of doing something '
that makes a positive difference even though    '
they are not so hot on having the negative side '
of the equation enforced.                       '
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Try:                                            '
  *  Showing appreciation when @3 does the      '
     target behavior and then demonstrating how '
     this appreciation is translated into action'
     on your part.                              '
  *  Having them experience the loss of respect '
     when the target behavior does not occur.   '
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